Holy Paws http://holypaws.com how my dog helped me heal from abuse Sun, 07 Nov 2010 15:00:47 +0000 en hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1 There’s A Way out of Your Past! http://holypaws.com/there%e2%80%99s-a-way-out-of-your-past/ http://holypaws.com/there%e2%80%99s-a-way-out-of-your-past/#comments Fri, 27 Aug 2010 15:45:18 +0000 thanksgiving http://holypaws.com/?p=496 I was 61 years old and stuck in my past; still wishing things had been different, still hoping for an outcome that could never be, and still allowing what had happened years ago to affect my current thoughts, actions and reactions.   
 
For decades I focused on past hurts, looking in the rearview mirror, so to speak.  Tired of reliving my past and tired of how it made me feel about myself, I was searching for a way to let go of all my yesterdays and enjoy the good that was in my life today.
 
It was time to move on.  But, I didn’t know how. And there was no instructional manual on how to live “today.” 
 
Looking for a solution I asked myself, “How can I stop thinking about what happened?  How do I work through and let go of the past?  What do I need to do?  What am I waiting for?  What will it take for me to finally live “today?”
    
It was in asking and answering these same questions, and many more, that I discovered four useful tools for working through, letting go of, and moving beyond the past. 
 
Everyone has experienced some disappointment, hurt, or trauma in his or her life.  No one is immune.  Not me, not you.  Just as I was, you may be stuck in your past, reliving what has happened, not knowing how to let it go, how to come into your “today.”     
 
In upcoming posts I will be sharing the tools and tips I discovered for letting go. It’s my hope that you will find your way out of your past and into your “today.” 
 
You are worth it!

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Changing our outer circumstances will never reverse how we feel about the past.  The only way for us to free our past and live today is to look at it from a different perspective.  In order to release the past we must learn to see   to look at ourselves from new viewpoint, one that is of God.

Think back to a time when you were harmed in some way by another.  More than likely you immediately believed it was about you; what you did or did not do, what you said or did not say, how you reacted to a situation.  But in reality what happened was never about you.  It was then and continues to be about the other person, where they were emotionally at the time of the offense.   And yet you and I are the ones holding onto these experiences.

The first new tool to put in your toolbox is what I call the “Who I Am” tool.  We are not what has happened to us, we are not our experiences.  Likewise, we are not what we have done or said to another. 

You and I are children of the Divine, of God.  And as a child of God we have an inheritance that no one, not even us, can take away.  

Blessings for TODAY,
Jeannine

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